After a divorce, it is normal for former spouses to encounter some issues as they move forward and co-parent their children. You probably feel a little wounded and will need more time before you can entirely set aside these feelings. It is in your children’s best interests that you and your former spouse do what you can to work together as a team and set aside any ill will you may have toward one another. Remember that your relationship is now centered around raising your children no longer about your past as a married couple.
Raising Children with Your Ex-Spouse
No two situations are alike, so what works for some may not be directly applied to your situation. However, there are some tips that work for most and we compiled a list to help guide you through this difficult time.
Here are some tips to co-parent your children with your ex-spouse:
- Do not ask your children to relay any messages on your behalf: Even if the message seems relatively benign, it is still possible for issues to emerge and you do not want to put your children in the middle of it. Communicate directly with one another and leave your children out of it.
- Find an effective method to communicate: Some methods of communication work better than others for exes, so find out what is most effective for you. Consider phone calls, texts, or emails if speaking in person is too difficult. With the technological advancements made in communication, there are numerous options available to you.
- Learn how to listen to each other: Listening to your ex-spouse will be hard, especially since it probably was part of why you ultimately got a divorce. However, it is important to listen to each other now as you raise your children. It does not mean you need to agree with each other, but you should understand one another’s concerns enough to effectively communicate and work on a compromise.
- Do not discuss anything unrelated to your children: You do not have to talk about the personal details of your life if they do not somehow relate to your children or your ability to care for them. Try to keep all of your conversations focused on the children in order to avoid any unnecessary quarrels.
- Be willing to apologize: Apologizing and admitting when you are wrong is hard, but it can make a big difference in your co-parenting relationship, so be willing to extend an apology to your ex when you think you were in the wrong.
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