The aftermath of a divorce often feels very uncertain for children. Going back and forth between two different households can feel confusing, but you and your former spouse can make it easier by working together to create a consistent set of rules and routines for them to follow. Children thrive on stability, so although it may seem difficult to cooperate with your spouse on this matter, it will ultimately benefit your children.
The Importance of Consistency
Your children may feel very anxious and insecure, which is why it is important to create a consistent environment for them in both households. If one parent is stricter than the other, or if one parent has a completely unstructured environment, this can create a lot of tension in the family and create conflict between you, your children, and your co-parent. Therefore, it is crucial for both of you to set your differences aside and work together on this matter.
Here are some tips that will help you create rules and routines for your children in both households:
- Consider what your stance is on certain key issues and if you are willing to be flexible on some of them.
- Determine which issues on which you believe you should be more steadfast.
- Discuss rewards for good behavior and consequences for bad behavior.
- After agreeing on a set of rules and routines for your kids, you should also discuss how you plan to communicate them to your children.
- Ask yourselves if there are any potential pitfalls or benefits to your approach.
Be willing to revisit these issues and open to revising them if something is not working. Everyone is getting used to the changes brought on by your divorce, so this may require a little trial and error.
Discuss the Details of Your Family Law Case with an Experienced Legal Professional
Even after the dust settles on a divorce, you may continue running into some complications that require the assistance of a knowledgeable family law attorney. At Cynthia Tracy, Attorney at Law, P.C., our team is backed by more than three decades of combined legal experience and a commitment to ensuring the best results for every client we serve. You can rely on our team to provide personalized attention and customized solutions for your needs.
Reach out to our law office today at (281) 612-5443 to request an initial case review with one of our attorneys to discuss your case.